Social Anxiety and Employment

Social anxiety disorder (SAD)can interfere with employment. Attending school,大学, or university, going on job interviews, and performing in a work environment can be difficult if you live with this disorder. Those who do find themselves maintaining employment may still struggle daily.

If you find yourself in this position, one thing that can help is to share how you feel. By the same token, reading stories from other people going through the same thing can be helpful.

阅读疾病的事实和数字是一件事;通过每天居住在问题的人的眼中，看到世界完全不同。也许这个故事听起来就像你自己的生活，或者也许你有自己的独特细节要添加。至少，它可能有助于你感到不那么孤独，或者更好地了解社交焦虑。

The following is a fictional first-person account of someone with social anxiety disorder and is not based on any particular person.

有悲伤的人的生活中的一天

Mornings are usually not too bad. At least I know that I won't have to talk to anyone until I leave the house. However, if I have something that I have to do that day that involves talking to people, or even worse, some sort of public speaking, well then the day is already shot. I can't concentrate on anything else because I am worrying about what lies ahead.

如果我有电话，我需要让我经常避开它们。把它们放在下。如果我打电话，另一个人太忙了怎么办？如果我在糟糕的时间里叫什么？所以，我问自己，“称这个人称之为的理想时间是什么，我不会是个麻烦吗？”我可能会选择10:00时的时间，然后担心它，直到我打电话。

开车去上班并不可怕。我可以在单车道道路上做的一些驱动器，这很好，因为我知道没有人会在我身边拉起，看着我。交叉点是最糟糕的。我从来没有拉起另一辆车旁边，因为那个人可能会看着我。我微笑吗？直视？留下汽车长度更容易。

如果我必须得到天然气，我一定要去一个我熟悉的加油站。通过拉到错误的泵，我不想愚弄自己。我总是选择自行服务。这样我不必和任何人交谈。

Every once in a while, I decide that I need to get a haircut – one that doesn't involve cutting my own hair (and the disastrous results that can involve). The problem with getting a haircut is that you have to talk to the hairdresser. Usually, I answer in one-word sentences and eventually, she stops trying to talk to me. I don't have anything interesting to say anyway, so it's better that she and I share the time in silence. Sometimes she will talk with her colleagues because clearly, I have become too boring.

Getting back to work – yes I dowork。Have done so for my whole adult life. I know that some people with SAD do not work. I guess I don't have it as bad as them. As much as I would love to just stay in my house and never leave, I do have to earn an income, and work is the only way I have found to do so. I have had different kinds of jobs, each with their own problems. As much as people will tell you that you canfind a job这不涉及人 - 这不是真的。

如果你与动物一起工作，你通常必须与他们的所有者交谈。如果您在计算机上工作，您通常必须与其他人交谈您正在做的事情。即使是真正不涉及人们的工作仍然涉及其他员工。和午餐时间。和水冷却器谈话。

那些我吃的时间lunch与他人有挑战。有时候我还可以罚款。其他时候，感觉就像我永远不会通过这顿饭。我的手摇晃如此糟糕，食物几乎不能留在我的叉子上。它总是感觉我是狭隘的灾难。下次，我肯定会洒掉我的饮料或者只是不能吃东西。

其他人可能会和朋友一起度过。我不。我认识人，但我真的没有朋友。这不是人们不喜欢我，他们只是真的不认识我。当我一直担心时，很难认识我。人们试图成为我的朋友，但由于我的焦虑，我不会回报。我不打电话，因为我害怕。最终，这个人停止尝试。

如果这是我不必工作的一天，我没有任何其他计划，那么我通常会留在家。这是好的，因为我不觉得焦虑，而且糟糕，因为我最终会孤独。我想到其他人都和朋友和家人一起做乐趣和令人兴奋的事情。如果我独自花费太多时间，我开始下来。这是一个悖论;我害怕和人在一起，但同时我却独自一人。

If on a particular day, like I mentioned before, I have a specific engagement where I have to speak, I will worry about it all day. If it's a speech I have to give, I can worry about it for weeks. Or months. And when I say worry, I mean panic. Full-blown panic attacks in the middle of the night. Just in anticipation of the event. For the most part, I try to avoid these types of responsibilities. But life sometimes throws them at you.

杂货店购物并不是太糟糕。我把一份清单送到手上，我的头，并尽可能快地商店，以便我可以离开商店。如果我看到我知道的人，我通常会尽力避免与那个人交谈。我会说什么？他们会认为我很无聊。谈话会被DWINDLE，它会很尴尬。更好只是为了避免它。

我通常独自吃晚餐，然后也许看电视。我通常不会在一周内有计划。或者在周末，来思考它。为了有计划，你必须有朋友。偶尔，我会和家人一起做点什么。偶尔过着不经常发生。

我不认为我选择这种方式。我不知道为什么有人会选择这种方式。这是一种可怕的生活方式。我宁愿有一个非常具体的问题，就像害怕蜘蛛或害怕高度。这是人们可以理解的事情，它不会影响你生活的各个方面。这就是这是什么。它影响了我生命的每一部分。因为剩下的余生独自并不是真正的生命。

当我的头撞到枕头时，想法回来了。今天我做错了什么？我是怎么烦恼自己的？我明天要做什么？我怎么能离开它？如果我很幸运，我马上就会睡着了。我发现运动有助于让我疲惫不堪，让我更容易入睡。如果我没有行使，它可能需要几个小时才能入睡。这些想法只是通过我的头部搅拌而不是重新感兴趣。

I want to get help but I don't know how. Nobody knows about the inner turmoil I go through. They might have noticed a bit of anxiety here and there, but for the most part, I keep it pretty well hidden. It's not like other mental illnesses where there is an impact on others in my life; it's only me that gets the brunt of it. I just keep on taking it because I don't know how to get over it.

不过，有一些希望。我知道我没有尝试过一切来打击我的恐惧，我不愿意放弃。我相信与像我这样的人会遇到差异。如果我能加入一个therapy group特别是为了帮助社交焦虑症（悲伤）的人，那么至少我会知道其他人都会处理同样的问题。它会感到不那么尴尬，因为我们都会在同一条船上。

与此同时，我继续阅读我所能。我可能会尝试另一个self-helpprogram or one day work up the courage to make an appointment with my doctor. It's hard. Every day is hard, but I keep going knowing that it will be better someday. I am better now than I used to be, and I think that just comes with age. I do think that the more I expose myself to social situations, the more comfortable I will become. In some ways, I just lack the practice because fear has kept me away.

I know that there are others who have much worse社交焦虑比我（如何，如何。可能有些人也有温和的人。我只知道我的损害足以让它影响每天做的一切。这真的是斗争 - 因为我们的世界是如此社会，所以恐惧和焦虑永远不会让我感到困惑。

A Word From Verywell

This fictional account reflects someone likely living with a mild to moderate level of social anxiety – this person is able to function in most areas of life but lives with anxiety under the surface. There are many different levels of social anxiety, so your situation could look very different. Whatever your symptoms, know that there are others who are also struggling with the same issues and that you are not alone. Effective treatments do exist for SAD, if you are willing to reach out to get help.