我如何在约会时向某人询问？

向某人询问某人是若有的自信要求. It involves taking the initiative to let someone know what you are thinking and feeling, asking for what will make you happy, and at the same time taking the feelings of the other person into consideration.

Why You Are Afraid to Ask Someone on a Date

如果你住在一起social anxiety disorder (SAD), it may be hard to imagine how to ask someone on a date. How would an actual encounter play out?

您可能担心您希望在其他社交场合发生的同样的事情，如不受趣的或其他人注意到您的焦虑。最重要的是，您可能担心您将被拒绝。

Dating is the ultimate form of putting yourself out there and risking receiving a "no" in return. Fortunately, there are ways to make the process easier on yourself and the other person, so that it doesn't have to feel so stressful or pressured.

Asking Someone on a Date

下面是一个关于询问某人的示例脚本。

詹姆斯对一个名叫Sarah的可爱女孩感兴趣，他与他一起工作但从未制定过勇气来提出她。他等着，希望她们能够发起谈话，但他也认为她可能太害羞了，以便第一举动。

詹姆斯的最佳方法是以随意的方式将请求作为对话的一部分框架。他会感到不那么焦虑（“彻头彻尾”拒绝的风险），另一个人可以说不，不必感到差。

When speaking with the other person, be sure to smile, make eye contact, and keep your body language friendly and open. If the other person is not receptive to your conversation or does not accept your invitation, do not take it personally. There is nothing to be gained by dwelling on rejection. Instead, congratulate yourself for asking.

在线约会

The increasing popularity of online dating may be helpful for those with social anxiety, as it allows the opportunity to meet people in a less demanding social environment. However, online dating can also involve many of the same pitfalls as in-person dating.

This also gives you more practice in real-life social settings.

A Word From Verywell

If you are still struggling to ask other people out on dates, it could be that you are living with severe social anxiety. If you've not already reached out for help, contact your doctor and make an appointment for a referral to a mental health professional. There are effective treatments such as medication and therapy that could make a difference in your life.