Healthy Ways to Celebrate Success

你在脑海中取得成功的形象是什么？我们可能认为成功意味着能够收集物质财产，实现某些专业地位或在银行中拥有特定的金额。但是关于日常生活中的成功？去看不见的事情如有意义的任务，以目的为例，寻找勇气做新事物，抵制诱惑，掌握技能？

人们通过他们的生活从来没有庆祝成功，因为他们经常在成功时不承认。我们对成功的个人定义极大地影响了我们对自我的看法和我们对我们的经验的含义。在谈论庆祝的健康方式时，开发您的真实和个性化的成功定义是关键。

Why Celebrate Success?

心理学家和作者情绪化成功：感恩，慈悲和骄傲的力量，David Desteno，博士, studies the relationships between emotions and success. In his work, DeSteno shares that emotions, such as pride, can lead people to greater future success. Regarding prosocial emotions such as gratitude, compassion and pride, he states:

"These feelings - gratitude, compassion and pride - are easier to generate than the willpower and self-denial that underpin traditional approaches to self-control and grit. And while willpower is quickly depleted, prosocial emotions actually become stronger the more we use them."

Desteno博士继续分享，这不仅是我们在庆祝帮助我们对未来产生更大的弹性和动力时，我们也会经历的这些口语情绪，但它们也是具有传染性的。他说，“我们周围的人会在我们做的时候更有可能申请它们。”那是多么美好？我们可以享受庆祝我们的成就的好处，同时也鼓励我们周围的人实现和庆祝自己。

Celebrating vs. Rewarding

当我们想到庆祝时，我们可能会考虑在完成目标或工作岗位之后奖励自己。虽然奖励自己可能会感觉与庆祝相同，但奖励表明在获得奖品后，在该特定任务中没有继续努力。

Extrinsic motivationis when we feel motivated to complete a task because we want to earn an external reward, such as a gift, ribbon, trophy or money. The process of completing the task becomes more about the final outcome than the process and effort required to complete the task. When we rely too much on extrinsic motivation and reward, it can be difficult to find the energy to engage in the task itself when that external reward is removed.

内在动机另一方面，来自内部的动机，而不是仅关注结果或奖励。这种类型的动机与任务的过程和努力有关，而不是结果。当内在动机时，人们将为自己的乐趣进行一项任务，即使在最后没有奖杯。以健康的方式庆祝成功使我们能够提高我们努力的积极情感，进一步提高了我们的内在动机

如何以健康的方式庆祝

您可以庆祝您的成功，促进继续您的个人履行之旅的动力。

Personal Reflection

What is it that you are celebrating? Sure, winning the game or meeting your sales quota would be reasons to celebrate, but if we take away the outcome and look at the journey it took to get there, what would you want to celebrate most? Take time to reflect on things like the elements of your value system that guided your decision making and the personal strengths that helped you achieve your goal.

In your reflection, you might ask yourself questions like:

• What did I enjoy most about this journey?
• What strengths did I use?
• What do I feel most confident about?
• 我是如何克服障碍的障碍？

在反思中回答这样的问题可以帮助澄清你庆祝你的成功的原因。当您注意到您所庆祝的内容时，您正在练习感激并提高可能在未来任务中使用的个人优势。给你的庆祝意义和目的，为建立信心next challenge。

包括其他人

庆祝成功时，可以很容易地忘记可能帮助我们的其他人，以大或小，达到终点线。包括您庆祝活动的其他人是建立和加强与同事，亲人或其他帮助您的其他人的联系的美妙方式。提供有关他们帮助您实现目标的方式的具体反馈，并表达对他们的帮助感到感激之情。

人们享受感觉有用，赞赏和连接。当你与他人一起庆祝成功时，你正在培养这种有意义的关系，让那些同样的人希望在未来帮助你。

出席

In our fast-paced society we seem to always be focused on the future. When we have reached one goal we quickly move on to the next, often with no celebration at all. In fact, sometimes it can feel uncomfortable for people to celebrate their own success for fear that they would be drawing too much attention to themselves or setting themselves up for embarrassment.

Celebrating your success, especially in the ways we are talking about here, includes slowing down to appreciate and live the experience of your success with those who are important to you.

培养自己

Celebrate in fun ways that nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Decide to celebrate in ways that speak to you and what you enjoy most. Examples of ways to celebrate while nurturing at the same time include:

• 与亲人的晚宴
• 在公园里走路或慢跑
• 观看日出或日落
• 米assage or spa treatment
• 与朋友的游戏之夜
• 开始一个新的日记
• Go on an adventure
• Try a new hobby

来自粗糙的一个词

An important piece of celebrating your success in healthy ways is to simply take the time to do it. Enjoy your efforts, energy, and accomplishments. Include others who have helped you along the way and remember to celebrate in ways that nurture your mind, body and spirit.