4 Ways to Boost Your Resilience for Tough Times

我们之间的差异不仅陷入困难，而且在我们如何回应它的情况下。你发现自己在生活中似乎不幸的是吗？或者你拥抱斗争吗？

弹性是应对逆境和使用挑战的能力力量和繁荣。拥有弹性并不意味着你不会挣扎，犯错，或需要寻求帮助。即使情况丑陋或疲惫不堪，仍然有弹性人员继续堵塞。他们从他们的意外和不幸中吸取教训，他们依靠别人充满信心和信任。

Whether the struggles you face are traumas or everyday setbacks, being resilient will help you gain greater control over your own path and cultivate positive change. These four strategies can build your resilience reserves.

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弹性人们找到一种方法来解释他们的情况，在仍然接受现实的同时更积极的光线。想象一年以后一年广播一年广播采访自然灾害的受害者。有些育雏：“我们永远不会让我们的生活回来。”其他人找到了银色衬里：“这是我遇到的最糟糕的事情，但这个社区已经走到了一起，以如此多的令人难以置信的方式表现出了它的力量。”

我们有能力决定我们将如何解释我们所面临的逆境。当我们努力寻求欣赏我们在坚持下获得的东西时，我们培养了更加感激的生活方式。伤疤的困难也尊重美国智慧。

确定您可以控制的内容

乐观主义者是我们最具资格的，并且他们通过重点关注他们如何让他们的情况更好地实现。当面临挑战时，悲观的思想家更有可能对机会盲目了解积极变化。简而言之，他们采取了受害者心态。

乐观主义者保持更准确的控制对他们所做的控制。将海军上将詹姆斯·斯托尔的审判视为越南战俘。这Stockdale Paradox, a term coined by author Jim Collins, is the recipe for resilience that combines a harsh and objective assessment of reality (“Being a prisoner of war is awful”) with confidence and faith that drive hope (“This will get better and I can make it better”). Despite being stuck in solitary confinement, Stockdale and his fellow prisoners developed a system of tapping to communicate with one another. Once they could communicate, they could support each other.

现实乐观识别控制点 - 在这种情况下，通信的能力 - 并利用它们。尽管疲惫的情况，恢复力是避免前进的行为。当我们批判性地看待我们可以控制的东西时，我们铺设了自己的道路。

Seek Support

这re are many images in our culture of the self-reliant, lone hero whose personal willpower provides enough strength to withstand any obstacle.

But while personal strength matters a lot, it is ultimately asense of community that enables true resilience。对受到大量困难的儿童研究发现，在提供稳定和支持的生命中有一个成年人的孩子比没有那些没有的孩子更有可能。在安全的关系缓冲区的背景下，对童年创伤的许多潜在负面影响有关和处理一个人的斗争。

和关系效益延伸到成年人。考虑库存和他的同胞囚犯。他们的沟通系统培养了“我们在一起”的心态。当我们面临困难时，我知道那里有其他人在那里关心。

Embrace Challenge and Failure

Failure is hard for many of us to take. We’d rather step back from a challenging situation than risk making a fool of ourselves. But when we adopt the perspective that challenge can strengthen us, and that we can learn from both successes and failures, we’re exercising our resilience muscles.

This is not to say that we should seek adversity. But finding small, manageable ways to challenge yourself builds confidence. Take that class you’ve been interested in. Make that phone call you’ve been avoiding. Push your limits little by little and adopt a view of exploration and curiosity. Whether you soar or crash and burn, you’re gaining knowledge and insight.

A Word From Verywell

每个人都有不同的levels of resilience, but it is a skill you can work to build. Put in the effort to develop it before you encounter hardship, and you'll be able to meet challenges and learn from them.

如果你正在努力处理创伤事件或不良经历，寻求专业帮助。在没有专业干预的情况下，你可能有患上适应障碍或创伤后应激障碍的风险。治疗师可以帮助你降低风险，增强韧性，以健康的方式管理你的痛苦。