在“本周精神强壮的人”系列中,我将在我的播客中分享来自我最喜欢的一些客人的智慧,“精神壮大的人.”I’ll explain the strategies they use to stay mentally strong and then give you my take (as a therapist) on how you can apply these strategies to your own life.
You might remember Danica McKellar as Winnie Cooper from the TV show奇迹岁月。Since her days as a childhood actress, she’s gone on to accomplish some incredible things—which is why she is this week’s “Mentally Strong Person of the Week.”
在大学里,她发现她真的很擅长数学。所以她开始为孩子们写数学书。她的书变得如此受欢迎,他们击中了多个畅销书名单。她继续帮助年轻人(他们的父母)分解复杂的数学原则,以乐趣,易于理解的方程式。
然而,她的畅销书作者状态尚未结束她的表演职业生涯。她继续在电视节目和电影中明星,包括Hallmark的热门圣诞电影。她使用她的平台谈论心理健康,包括她自己的个人斗争。万博手机客户端
Danica McKellar
I get super depressed... I'm an actress. I'm empathetic, and it just weighs me down like a ton of bricks.
但她还分享了帮助她保持精神强劲的策略。每周,她分享了一个名为#mckellarmondaymotivation的社交媒体的视频,在那里她提供了艰难时期并达到目标的提示。
During our conversation on the精神壮大的人播客,丹尼卡共享了几种帮助她思考,感受,并在生活中做到最好的策略。以下是其中三种策略以及我的承担如何将它们应用于自己的生活。
Find a way to help other people.
丹尼察说,新闻故事让她下来。但当她采取某种行动来帮助他人时,她感觉更好。
Danica McKellar
One of the things I do when I'm feeling down is to ask myself what I can do to make a difference.
During the pandemic, for example, she said she felt awful hearing stories about kids in rough situations. So she started creating fun little videos for people through Cameo, and she donates the money she earns to charity.
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听到其他人的痛苦可能会让你感到无望和无助。采取行动是一种更好的态度。
Like Danica, you might find raising money for a good cause helps. But you might also find that doing things on a smaller scale is equally as helpful. Just being kind to those around you or doing a good deed for a neighbor could help you feel a little better.
重要的是,你有助于使世界成为一个更好的地方。当你知道你的行为可以走很长的路要减少别人的痛苦,你会感觉更好。
即使你不喜欢它,也要采取行动。
Danica said that when she’s having a bad day, she sometimes asks herself what advice she would give a friend. And that helps her get moving even when she doesn’t feel like it. She said on one particular day she couldn’t stop crying. But she started doingyogaeven though she didn’t feel like it. Getting active helped ease her sadness, and she felt better.
Danica McKellar
Don’t wait until you’re ready because you might never feel ready.
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推动自己做一些事情提升你的心情- 即使你不想觉得它是良好的建议。但这通常更容易做到相反。
你可能会想,“当我感到动机时,我会去健身房,”或者“当我感到沮丧时,我会和我的朋友在一起。”但有时你必须先改变自己的行为,你的感受将遵循。当你不喜欢它时,很难让自己采取行动,但它绝对可以帮助你变得更强大。
Break big goals down into small reasonable chunks.
丹尼察说,每当她面对一个大目标时,她会把它分成较小的块。这有助于她的感觉不堪重负,更有动力来解决一个大目标。它还有助于她对她成功的能力感到相信。
Danica McKellar
People give up on their dreams because they’re afraid they’re going to fail.
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无论您是否出发以支付100万美元的债务,或者您决定赔偿50磅,agiant goalcan feel impossible in the beginning.
Establishing smaller objectives gives you a place to start. In the therapy office, I often ask clients, “What’s one small step you can take today to get you a little closer to your goal?” That might mean exercising for 30 minutes, saving $5, or calling to schedule an important appointment.
Each time you check something off—even when it’s something really small—you gain momentum. And that momentum can help you keep going as you work toward reaching a big goal.
To hear more of Danica’s mental strength suggestions, listen to the full episode on my精神壮大的人podcast. Each week, I’ll share another Mentally Strong Person and explain how their strategies can help you think, feel, and do your best in life.