Understanding Step 4 of the 12 Steps

在12步计划中有一种说法，恢复是一个过程，而不是一个事件。第四步可以说同样的说法：“我们自己的寻找和无所畏惧的道德清单。”

Whether we come through the doors of酗酒者匿名或者Al-Anon家族团体机会我们带来了一生的“臭思想”。坦率地说，“雾”开始举起，所以我们开始更清楚地看到自己和世界各地的世界。

If we have sincerely completed the first three steps and have truly made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, then it is time to put that principle into action. We must find the courage to take a fearless look at ourselves and become willing to clean up the garbage we find.

In order to proceed, we must identify the problems and get a clear picture of how our behavior affected ourselves and others around us. That picture is not always in focus for newcomers early in recovery, but as we continue to hang around the rooms, listening and learning from others, and keeping an open mind, we find more layers of the "onion" being peeled away.

没有毕业服务

We are not perfect, and never will be in this life. That is the reason there are no graduation services heldat 12-step meetings！！但如果我们继续参加，携带信息对别人来说，并听取他们必须分享的东西，我们可以继续成长并进行精神进步。这就是为什么他们说，“继续回来！”

有助于自我库存的工具

在第4步过程中有有助于帮助的工具。有一个第四步指南在线提供适用于所有12步成员。

在线第4步指南包括彻底的一套方向explaining how the guide works and a reminder that an inventory is simply a list: "Please keep in mind that the Fourth Step is not dealing with changing anything. An inventory doesn't change things, it simply lists things. Your inventory is only a story of your feelings and acts from the beginning until now."

然后，在线指南提供疑问和建议，以帮助童年，青春期和成年期的库存，以“在此处和现在”的最终结论部分。

The online 4th Step Guide is of course just a suggested guide that is intended to be helpful to those doing an inventory. It is not intended to be shared with anyone, it is for "your eyes only," according to the directions.

除了在线指南外，Al-Anon家族团体还有它的Blueprint for Progress: Al-Anon's Fourth Step Inventory工作簿可以是在线订购。

但是在做步骤4中的最大帮助可以从大于自己的力量获得，作为游客bulletin boardhave demonstrated in their shares on this step, as our研究12个传统and 12 Steps continues:

第4步：每日库存

正如你们许多人都知道我星期四晚上的共享12步骤会议，我花了很长时间才能在12步上工作。

I was told by my Sponsor that all I had to do was workthe first stepto it's fullest, keep attending meetings, do what I was told, and the rest will come in time. By doing this I was in some manner working on taking the 12 steps, and it was well over a year before I ever missed a meeting.

我意识到我更好地走上12个步骤，终于来了参加这么多的会议I knew who I wanted to help me with the steps. This very good friend of mine chaired a lot of 12 step meetings, (classes) which I started to attend. I went along just fine until I came upon the 4th step and I hit a wall.

I felt real bad about so many things that I had done in my life, that it seemed impossible to get all of this inventory down right. Finally, one day I was sharing this with my sponsor and he smiled and asked me where I was going. He told me to do the best that I can at this time and I will have plenty of time to do the rest. He told me not to be beating up on myself, (keep it simple) and this is just what I did.

它让它变得更加容易，通过时间，我能够看到如何采取我的道德库存。一旦我们采取这些步骤，它并不意味着我们已经完成了，也不是指我们必须始终按顺序执行12个步骤。我必须每天都有一个人的道德清单。我必须回头看，并确保我喜欢跳过的事情。

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第4步：诚实

在这里，我仍然在步骤4.在这里待了几周和几周，需要完成。我唯一可以说真正有帮助的是将问题获得了这一步骤在网上。

那里必须有100个问题，我还在童年的部分。我要做的是很难的事情，但我必须这样做。在我的40年代我问了这个问题，为什么亲爱的上帝？为什么要回到过去，痛苦的过去。过去已经消失了，今天在明天是，我的希望。

I see now why I must do this and continue to do so. My mother wasan alcoholic并在49岁去世，我的兄弟是酗酒，并在48岁去世。四十七来找我，我不去。看着过去让我多于努力了解为什么我嫁给了酗酒者。

这一步很难 - 这个步骤可能是痛苦的 - 但我只要求你这样做。一天一小时不是那么多的时间，写出答案，对自己诚实，如果这种痛苦进入你的心脏，请记住上帝和你在一起。还记得我们在这里彼此。

SS.

Step 4: A Journey

第4步是为了我作为一个非常可怕的东西。“道德”库存？我为我的大部分生命都挣扎着道德问题。我来自一个严格，保守和自以为是的宗教背景。而这个家庭的自我指定领导者是一个与男人不满的女人，所以我所说或者甚至在12岁时都有甚至接近她的道德边界。所以当我被告知最终我会采取搜索和无所畏惧的道德库存，我非常不愿意。

现在要通过步骤4.我的赞助商让我要做几件事作为第四步的前身。首先，我不得不列出我喜欢的十个身体属性。然后我不得不列出我喜欢的十个个性特征。另一个名单至少有十个人爱我。我每天早上都要读这些名单两周。

我的赞助商继续：拿一份法律论文。绘制一条线，然后在线中放置一个标记。这是我的生命线，中心是我生命中的中间（当时我32岁，因此标记表示年龄16）。他告诉我，开始在表示我生命中的重大事件的线上制作标志。

一旦我完成了这一切，我已经准备好了第4步。我的赞助商翻了了我Hazelden guides, but I couldn't do it that way. Then I attended a meeting one Friday night, largely attended by people rumored to be the graduates of Chicago AA boot camp (the dreaded residences). A woman stormed in, angry at some event that had just occurred, and made her comment, which included this: "If you are working the 4th step, the best way to do it isthe way the Big Book explains it。" Now why this stuck with me I don't know, but I decided to try it. And I found that yes indeed, this was the best way for me.

所以我开始了第四步之旅。我写道，我写道，我写道。我取得了很大的进步，但有一天我不能再写了。我知道我没有完成，但由于某种原因我达到了砖墙，不能继续。我在会议上谈了它。我和我的赞助商谈过，但他无法帮助我。

Then a friend in the program invited me toACOA会议。I went to that meeting, and after only 10 minutes the brick wall had fallen down. I resumed writing my 4th step and completed it in just another week. ACOA had opened my eyes about many things that I had suppressed.

With my 4th step completed, I was ready (or so I thought) for Step 5.

Sox