第10步:“继续拿个人库存,当我们错了迅速承认它。”
无论你是努力吗?12步of酗酒者匿名(AA)那麻醉品匿名(NA)那al-Anon.那or any other program, step 10 may be one of the least popular of all the 12 steps. Why? It’s simply no fun to be wrong and then have to admit it.
但没有这一步,恢复的进步不仅可以停止,它实际上就会失去地。在这里,我们讨论了第10步的一些好处,以及您可以将其纳入日常生活的方法。
12Steps Defined
According to Alcoholic Anonymous, the 12 steps are as follows:
- 我们承认我们无能为力 - 我们的生活变得无法管理。
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- 决定转向我们的意志,我们的生活在我们理解他时对上帝的照顾。
- 做了自己的寻求和无所畏惧的道德清单。
- 承认上帝,对自己和另一个人是错误的确切性质。
- 完全准备好了上帝去除所有这些性格的缺陷。
- 谦卑地要求他消除我们的缺点。
- 列出了我们受到伤害的人,并愿意为他们弥补。
- 尽可能地直接修改这些人,除了何时这样做会伤害他们或其他人。
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- 由于这些步骤的结果,我们试图将此信息携带到酗酒者并在所有事务中练习这些原则。
什么是第10步?
在步骤10中,个人库存是指可以触发人恢复滥用药物或酒精的情绪障碍。每天观察这些干扰 - 并采取日常库存 - 是恢复的重要组成部分。
Step 10 helps to keep the spiritual house clean. All humans and are bound to make mistakes and errors. Owning up to those wrongs quickly settles the issue. Rather than weighing on the conscience or building up to produce greater consequence, the mistake is corrected promptly and the problem nipped in the bud.
Nobody likes to admit to being wrong, but it is absolutely necessary to maintain spiritual progress in recovery.
步骤10的好处
Step 10是另一个似乎难以面临的过程,但实际上,这对录取错误的人来说是一个与被冤枉的人一样多。
经过promptly facing mistakes and taking responsibility for them, it prevents situations from festering into resentments and anger that can become real problems.
例如,假设你说一些不敏感或粗暴的东西,一旦它流出你的嘴,你就会意识到这一位人不正确。正如第10步暗示,你立即道歉并告诉那个人你错了,你应该永远不会说。
Then, you can walk away knowing you have done your part to make it right. If the other person wants to hold on to it and remain angry about it, it is their problem, not yours.
这些步骤是帮助您进行进度。最后,你为你的精神好处道歉,而不是他们的利益。
提示和策略
Here some practical ways to apply step 10 to daily life:
- Stop and think before you speak.这有助于防止你说一些有害的东西,并帮助你更加意识到别人的感受。
- Admit when you're wrong.快速试图对错误的行为可以保持你的心理房屋清洁,防止自我妨碍步骤10。
- 表现出意想不到的善意。如果您无法直接向该人伤害“修复”伤害,请尝试对另一个人表现出意外的善行。
- Take a daily inventory.每天留出时间,以冥想并反思您的一天 - 既有良好和坏的部分。问你自己:你不诚实或怨恨吗?你有没有说或做任何值得道歉的事情?你明天可以做哪些步骤?
来自粗糙的一个词
与12步计划的每个部分一样,步骤10在每天工作时承诺进行个人库存,当你错了时,承认,沿着持久康复的旅程成为你最好的自我。
If you or a loved one are struggling with substance use or addiction, contact theSubstance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline在1-800-662-4357for information on support and treatment facilities in your area.
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