Being ahighly sensitive person(HSP)不是一件坏事。它只是意味着你倾向于更深入地处理事情,例如线索,情绪和经验。你非常了解你的周围环境,并有一个敏锐的礼物picking up on subtle cues in your environmentthat others may not notice.
因为你可能会倾向于选择这些微妙的铜es and process those more deeply than other people do, it is not a surprise to think that you might feel overwhelmed during experiences that are not-so-subtle. Things like loud noises, drastic temperature change, crowds, or emotionally-charged situations can createdistressbecause your system becomes overstimulated. You might also find that you have a harder time healing after experiences that involve betrayal, loss, or拒绝.
Keep in mind that being an HSP is simply a way of being in the world. Many people who identify as an HSP may have had experiences in their lives of other people telling them that they are "too sensitive," or "can't let things go." These can be painful things to hear, especially from those we care about, and leave us feeling like we are misunderstood or, worse, weak or incapable.
AsElaine Aron, Ph.D., states clearly in her work with highly sensitive people, "There is nothing wrong with high sensitivity. Sensitivity is an advantage in many situations and for many purposes, but not in other cases. Like having a certain eye color, it is a neutral, normal trait inherited by a large portion of the population, although not the majority." Dr. Aron estimates that this trait of high sensitivity is found in 15-20% of the population.
Not sure if you would be considered a highly sensitive person? You can take aquizby Dr. Aron to learn more.
Asking for Help as a Highly Sensitive Person
As an HSP, you may have experienced situations and people who have left you questioning yourself, your perceptions, and your abilities. This is not a good feeling and can leave you feeling flawed in some way. We tend to shy away from letting people in, fearing betrayal, loss, or rejection. It can feel risky for an HSP to ask for help, no matter how much they feel challenged and might struggle at work, in their personal lives or in their relationships.
当我们特别深深的伤口时需要愈合,例如滥用或创伤,认为我们需要难以与我们的故事和经验相信某人,以帮助我们找到治愈和和平。以下是伸出援手和寻找将理解如何与高度敏感人员合作的治疗师的一些提示。
Starting Your Search
Aron博士概述了在她的书中寻找治疗师的具体步骤,“高度敏感的人的工作簿:高度敏感的人和HSP支持群体的实用指南。”她所做的第一个建议之一就是“欣赏这一决定将对你的生活产生深远的影响。”决定心脏,并在决定之前花时间进行研究选择。您的治疗师将成为您在一段时间内融入您的生活中的人,始终向您提供通过挑战情绪分享经验和过程的安全空间。
寻找许可治疗师
Although many people offer services as ahelping professional,寻找有适当的教育,培训和许可的提供者很重要。这将是精神科医生,心理学家,许可的治疗师和社会工作者。这些职业有国家董事会规定,尽管提供者差异很大,但选择由其州董事会正式培训和全体资助的人将让您知道他们在其所选领域达到具体标准。许多提供商在其网站或其他列表中提供此信息,但如果您无法轻易发现信息,请不要害怕向该人询问他们的凭据和许可。
Where to Look
您可以在线找到有关治疗师的许多信息。有许多在线列表网站和其他致力于共享有关可用治疗师的信息的网站,可以按位置搜索,这样您就可以查看您的靠近您的选择。请记住,当您考虑调度和通勤时,您可能会定期看到这个人。
在线列表的示例包括:
联系并收集信息
一些治疗师可以免费提供免费咨询或通过电话简要介绍。如果您找到似乎对您有益的提供商,并且他们不会说他们提供免费咨询,不要害怕问。大多数治疗师都会很高兴通过电话花费15分钟,甚至通过电子邮件,回答有关他们的培训和经验的问题。请记住,此咨询时间可能需要预先安排,有些可能更喜欢您进入办公室进行亲自咨询。
Dr. Aron suggests that HSPs make a point of sharing enough information during their consultation or first session to gather information about how the therapist responds in session. Things to consider might include:
- Are they approachable and engaged in conversation?
- 他们似乎有富有同情心和理解吗?
- Do they allow you to share during the first session?
- 你发现他们有帮助吗ful insights?
- 他们是否允许您提出关于他们的培训或凭证的问题?
虽然一些治疗师本身是高度敏感的人,但其他人不是。它不一定是您所选择的治疗师像你这样的HSP的要求,但你可能有那种偏好。允许自己收集知道这是一个安全环境所需的信息,以及治疗师是否了解HSP的礼物和挑战。
Allow Yourself Time to Decide
After speaking with a few therapists, take a little time to walk away and consider your options. Reflect on things like their interactive style, and even the environment of their office. It can be easy for highly sensitive people to second guess themselves or question their perceptions. Remember, you have a gift of reading cues well, so allow yourself time to reflect on the information you have gathered in your search, and make a solid decision of who might be the best fit for you.