How to Know When You're Enabling an Alcoholic

Many times when family and friends try to "help" alcoholics, they are actually making it easier for them to continue in the progression of the disease.

This baffling phenomenon is called enabling, which takes many forms, all of which have the same effect—allowing the alcoholic to avoid the consequences of his actions.

帮助和启用之间有什么区别？有很多意见和观点，其中一些可以在下面链接的页面上找到，但这是一个简单的描述：

帮助为某人做一些事情，因为他们无法做到自己。启用是为他们可以和他们能做的事情做的事情should做自己。

简单地，使能创造一种氛围，其中酗酒可以舒适地继续他不可接受的行为。

你是一个推动者吗？

你有酗酒或瘾君子吗？

回答这10个问题，以帮助您决定您的行为和对酗酒的反应可能是有利的。

单击上面的链接以取消启用自我评估测试。如果您对任何问题的回答“是”，那么您在某个时间点使酗酒能够避免自己的责任。而不是“帮助”酗酒，你实际上让他更容易变得更糟。

If you answered "yes" to most or all of the questions, you have not only enabled the alcoholic, you have probably become a major contributor to the growing and继续问题并且有机会已成为受疾病的影响yourself.

Facing the Consequences of Drinking

只要酗酒就有他的启用装置就到位，就很容易继续否认他有一个问题— since most of his problems are being "solved" by those around him.

Some of these choices are not easy for the friends and families of alcoholics.如果酗酒饮酒应该支付公用事业账单的钱，他并不是唯一一个居住在黑暗，寒冷或闷热的房子里的钱。其余的家庭将与他一起受苦。

家庭的艰难选择，但选择

这使得家庭唯一的选择似乎是乘坐杂货的钱，而不是支付灯比例，因为没有人想要没有公用事业。

但that is not the only option. Taking the children to friends or relatives, or even a shelter, and letting the alcoholic come home alone to a dark house, is an option that protects the family and leaves the alcoholic face-to-face withhisproblem.

Those kinds of choices are difficult. They require "detachment with love。“但它是爱。

Getting Help to Deal With Someone's Alcoholism

Often those closest to the alcoholic or addict believe if they can让他停下来drinking or drugging, it will solve all of the problems. They may attempt a家庭干预还有许多其他策略试图“解决问题”。

但many families发现即使酗酒或成瘾者退出并进入恢复，问题仍然存在。适用于处理活跃或恢复酒精的家庭，有可用的许多资源通过困难提供帮助和支持。很多家庭成员have found that joiningAl-Anon家族团体完全改变了他们的生活。